"my life's been better since the day I left you boy
I must admit life's been kind to me
I went and did the things I said I would do boy
I found someone who loves me for me, yeah
haven't had much drama since the day that we split boy
my hearts never been more at ease
and when I think of all the things you put me through
leavin’ you has been the best thing for me
so why does it hurt so bad
why do I feel so sad
I thought I was over you
but I keep cryin’ when I don’t love you
so why does it hurt so badly
baby, I thought I had let you go
so why does it hurt me so
I gotta get you out of my head"
-whitney houston

...i couldnt say it any better.
i realized something; it hurts more when you try to stop loving someone vs. continuing to love them. i figured out that i dont have to hold resentment against a person for the past; and its ok to love someone that you dont want to be with because they did you wrong. TRUE feelings never really leave; if it was ever TRUE love.

it comes a time when the arguing, fighting, and childishness gets old and you just want to be at peace. im not afraid to admit all this, because after all i AM human. i have feelings. im NOT perfect. and i know myself well enough to know that when i fall in love with someone there will always be something there. there is no fighting, or hiding it. i realize that. and no i am NOT in love with anyone, or still in love; smh. im just being woman enough to say that some feelings just dont go away...

One of the major causes of relationship breakdowns is the issue of communication. People don't say what they mean, mean what they say, hold back entirely or just hope their partner 'gets' it without them having to even open their mouth.

Conflict in relationships is normal due to the varying elements each person brings to a relationship. Let's face it when two people are raised with different values, mindsets, experiences, education etc it's impossible to expect that sooner or later there won't be some defensiveness or egos involved in a conversation. Everyone is entitled to their viewpoint. Everyone has their own reality based on their unique mental processes and the information that's stored in their minds. Here's the problem. When one person is only willing to see things from their own perspective and assume that theirs is the only way to view something or is just right.

Think about it. I'll bet if you have had a conflict recently with your partner its source was each of your individual life philosophies, your unique 'shoulds' or some other mindsets that you brought to the conversation. As a result of attempting to manipulate your partner's values, experience, outlook or their opinions you created the potential for a conflict.

There are always two sides to every story. Actually there are unlimited sides to every story but since we are talking about 2 people relationships here I'll stick with two. A year ago when I was going through an unpleasant relationship breakup I recall telling my mum about how my Ex was behaving. I'll never forget her response as it hurt me at the time. It took a while for me to finally get it.

She said, "Tatiana, I'm not interested in your side of the story and I'm not interested in his side of the story either." "Why not?" I asked. She said, "There are always at least 3 sides to every story. Your side, his side and the truth is somewhere in between and I know all I'll get from either of you is your side. I'm never going to get the truth from either of you because you are focused only on your version. Let me try and figure out the truth that is in the middle on my own."

That was a long time ago, but her lesson has stayed with me no matter whether it was a relationship conflict, business conflict or just an occasional emotionally charged conversation with a total stranger.

Are you able to let go of your side and see the other person's viewpoint? Can your partner do the same? If neither or both of you can, I'll guarantee that your relationship is filled with stress, anxiety, frustration and a lot of unspoken words over time.

Communication is the foundation of every human relationship. If your communication isn't open, honest, clear and congruent there will always leave room for assumptions, misunderstanding and any number of potential conflicts that can tear relationships apart at the seams.

Let me tell you guys a little story about "AMOR". Where I come from that’s what we call L O V E! Have you ever been in AMOR? How do you even know if you LOVE someone??? It’s easier to love someTHING rather than someONE! Love is just a four letter word that makes it easier for the opposite sex to take advantage of your feelings for their own benefit, HARSH I know but I know a little something about LOVE! It’s nothing like AMOR! Love made me lose so many friends, Love made him Leave me, Beat me, Cheat on me, Hurt me, Use me, & Tease me! Love made me leave him, Love made me beat her, Love made me HATE him! Love made me cry all alone at night when he wasn't home...Love made me think such CRAZY thoughts about him...Love made assumptions that got me in TROUBLE with the law for him!

"I don't think I’ll ever have the strength to LOVE someone again"

Amor opened my eyes to something so PURE & NEW! Amor made my eyes tears up from the joy of speaking with you, Amor made me realize I never wanted to LOVE again...Amor made me not worry about any other BITCH that you talk to, because I knew that my Amor for you was true! Amor made my mother smile when you call her to talk about me & US! Amor made me realize that even though you got miles on you, I will ride until the day they put flowers on you!

IF YOU ASK ME, I don't mind NEVER falling in LOVE again, as long as the Amor I have for you is unconditional NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!

Amor = the Portuguese word for LOVE!
LOVE = a four letter word that made things complicated!

Dear Mr. Men,

All women just want to be treated special. She wants to feel appreciated. We women only want for you to walk through the door and shout, " Baby! I've been thinking about you all day!"

We just want to be adored!

A woman will change her appearance, friends, and her name for a man that she loves, just to make him happy. And what she wants in return is an admiring look... A few flattering words... embracement and a few surprises here and there (;

If you don’t have a lot of money that’s okay because love goes further than lifestyle. A woman could live in the harshest of conditions if every night you tell her how much you genuinely love and appreciate her.

A walk through the park with just the holding of her hand. A candle lit microwave dinner. A good morning and good night kiss to start and end the day. Just a smile when she comes in the room. Effort, to SHOW how much you really do care is all we ask. And if you can top these things, more power to ya!

Studies have shown you really do affect our moods, mental states, behaviors and work ethics. But that’s only because we're down for you. We want to feel what you feel. We want to know what you need. And we love you so much that we will do almost anything to make you happy and proud of us like daughters for their fathers. But we need that love. That assured, honest, cherished, respectful love- such as a loving father gives his beautiful daughters day in and day out without fail. He's not loud with them, he doesn’t hit them, and he would never walk out on his daughters. He comes home every night, tucks them in bed, hugs in the morning and adventures during the day.

Nobody’s perfect. Nothing is perfect. But effort can go such a long way.

Now I’m no expert. And I can only speak for myself and for the ladies that I know, but Men! I solemnly swear, if you treat your woman Special, she will steal bricks from the president to build you, her king, a palace.

** SIDE NOTE***

Keep in mind men, she chose you just like you chose her. Courting (devoted attention in order to win favor) shouldn't stop. Trying to please shouldn't stop. Neither one of you should get so comfortable that you quit trying to KEEP each other [Happy].

Go and get her TIGER!

 I miss the way you called my name

I miss the way you said 'I love you'
I miss the way you said 'I miss you'
I miss the way you held my hand,
and told me everything would be alright
I miss the way you looked into my eyes
I miss the way you hugged me tight
I miss the way you smiled at me
I miss the way you whispered in my ear
I miss the way you told me we would be together forever
I miss the way you told me sweet things to make me smile
I miss the way you told me your daily stories
I miss the way you told me not to be mad at you
I miss the way you comforted me whenever I was not okay


I just simply miss you

But what I miss you the most,
The way you held this heart and kept it safe and unbroken

R,
If you are to read this post,
I'm just going to show you how much I love you
I STILL LOVE YOU.
I STILL LOVE YOU.
I STILL LOVE YOU.

 you know, i thought it would never happen again. but it happened, last night.

“You're my something,